
Every three years the Hindu calendar makes up the shortfall of days by adding an extra month to the calendar. This 13th month which is also called the Extra Month or the month of Purshottam . Some people believe that this month which was carved out by the other months giving up a third of their quota of days is an unlucky month and doesn’t bode too well so to ward off any evil they keep a fast – which means either giving up one meal in the day or eating specific foods that are considered as “non food” for the entire month.The end of the fast is marked by giving 30 + 3 anarse to 30+3 married women or to your new son-in-law. This custom is particularly followed by the orthodox members of my community and the first I heard of this custom was when Mrs. Phadke who at that time was selling Postal Insurance schemes, called to ask if I was home as she needed to give me 30+3 anarse. With our shrinking community moving out into the suburbs, it was getting increasingly hard for her to find someone whom she knew would fit in the profile so even though we were her clients, she wanted to gift me the sweets and the customary gifts given to a married woman so that she could continue to enjoy the bliss of being a married woman.
Like most customs, this too has fallen by the way side and it was only my interest in our dying traditions that got me thinking about things. (more…)








