• Today is Guru Poornima or the Full Moon of  The Teacher and I wish I could personally thank all the people in my life who taught me.

    I first heard of this tradition of honouring one’s guru when I got married all those years ago. My newly acquired grandmother-in-law asked me to teach her French even though she was never going to use it. She was dedicated in her effort and every day we’d spend 2 hours learning verbs and nouns and every day she’d do her homework. We did this diligently for a year and on Guru Poornima insisted on paying me a Guru Dakshina of Rs.1.25 and a handsome meal of shrikhand puri.

    Today with tuition fees ranging  from Rs. 500 an hour to Rs. 2000 and more,  this amount is laughable but  Guru Dakshina is not about the money, it is all about the gratitude that a student has for a teacher. It is an amount that cannot be measured and cannot be adequately recompensed. It is a task that has little acknowledgement and of no value in the material world. But teachers have a role to play in the way we think and shape our lives in ways we cannot always see.

    My teachers have been many – right from very first teachers my parents – who apart from values and traditions taught me stuff :  my dad who was interested in everything and opened my eyes to the wonders of the world and my mom who taught me the meaning of dedication , tenacity, commitment and sacrifice; my very first teacher at my very first school  Mrs. Stokes, Mrs. Jaykar who brought my whole class to visit me in the hospital , Sister Mary Anselm the bad tempered nun who flung chalk  at those who talked , Miss Mistry whose nails would click on the piano and whose ruler would come smack on my knuckles, Miss Irani whose French accent was so atrocious that I was glad I don’t remember any of her lessons, Miss Lawrence who was the most unartistic art teacher I’d ever seen, Mrs. Ninan who taught Maths, Mrs Martin who taught History, Miss Castellino who left us heartbroken when she got married, Mrs. Punoose who used to sing out the last syllable as we completed each sentence, Mr. Elisha of the deep sonorous voice walking down the corridor with his black gown flapping majestically, Mr. Lewis who dinned formulae into our heads with his own formula of ” the more I practice the more I score and score I must”, Mr. Rao who refused to get disturbed by the antics of our class, Mr. Jacob whose history of religion class in the cool airconditioned comfort of his cabin was a welcome relief from Chemistry and Physics and Biology, Mrs Sonea who encouraged us to paint out of the line, Mrs. Karat and her eccentric way of teaching Geography, Miss Choksi who finally managed to make me somewhat like PE and finally all my English teachers who made that subject my favourite subject of all –  Miss Eapen, Mrs. Downey and Miss Vakil who looked remarkably like Queen Elizabeth. Our French classes at the Alliance were made all the more fascinating by  Madame Nouet  who waved her cigarette and nodded her head of curls as she held forth, Prof Swaminathan of the logical mind, Profs. Malapur and Namjoshi  whose names are all that I remember from the Eco classes and the list can go on and on and on. Teachers who made lessons fun and interesting but whose names unfortunately I can’t recall.  Especially since I’ve never really stopped learning. 
    I think none of us really stop learning and the world of academia only equips us with the tools to learn from life itself  because  no amount of preparedness prepares you for anything and no amount of knowledge gives you the skill sets and information to deal with things. 
    Every day we learn new things
    from new people and in many ways – 
    dear friends whose conversations   
    enriching and rewarding 
    are called my Gurus by my family……….
    But life’s experiences are the greatest teachers 
    They teach us many things
    that can’t be taught 
    like love and trust 
    And faith and hope. 
    And betrayal and deceit. 
    Our karmic fate makes people come 
    into our lives 
    to teach us what
    we need to learn.
    And then they leave to make some space
    For other people
    And new lessons
    that take the learning curve ahead.

    Thank you my Gurus for all that I know and the skill to make sense of what is yet to come. 

    On another note

    Last night a friend who stayed over was talking about facing life with grace a word which soothed and calmed my troubled mind and brought a momentary stillness into my stormy and unsettled life. Was it mere coincidence that he came on the eve of Guru Poornima to teach me a lesson I needed to learn? 
     He presented us with a book he’s recently published – Alphabestiary which is a wonderful collection of Animal poems complimented with an accompanying piece of prose. 
  • One of life’s greatest ironies is that it never rains but pours. December is normally the time when all those Indians who are no longer Indians return to our shores to enjoy the cooler weather which is one of the reasons why our traditional summer weddings have now been re-arranged to winter ones just to accommodate the “snow birds” escaping from the snow.

    This year and  in fact this week , in particular, I find it strange that suddenly we have friends from the US and Canada  visiting just this weekend. I mean there are 52 weekends in the year but why is it that only this weekend is convenient for all of them to meet me?

    Another thing I find really strange is that these people who adopted different countries, different cultures and different people as their families have a strange hankering to meet up with people from the past. Now why would they do that? While I am only too happy to meet up with old friends and family, I find it strange that those very same people who find living in India a drag, who are happy to be away from their pesky parents and inquisitive aunts and uncles, who can’t bear the filth, the corruption, the dirt and everything that is India, go out of their way to come year after year to this land they so hate and meet the people they so badly want to distance themselves from …………

    Perhaps it makes them feel good to go back to their sanitized, perfect existences where the only people they know are those they choose to know, the places they live and work in are picture book perfect and they can come back and look at all of us with pity and disgust and feel happy that they are no more Indian.

    This evening I will be meeting up with a school friend, spoke to a dear family friend and will be entertaining two friends of Hubby dear. I am thrilled to be entertaining them but am apprehensive about the water that is bottled , the “sodas” , the veggies, the chicken and the over all stuff. Will my house be too cluttered? Will the wind drop and the living room get stuffy? Will it rain and will my guests get wet on their way home? Will the lift behave itself? Will they all enjoy themselves?

    Well, I just have to hope that  they are indulgent and overlook the shortcomings of my home and hospitality. 

  • So it’s holiday time for Lord Vishnu yet again and as usual we will be celebrating this day by eating specially prepared “fast food”. Bayda, the bai has already kept the saboodana soaking overnight , roasted and pounded the peanuts and I look forward to some simply yummy saboodana khichadi today. This year His holiday is going to be longer because our Hindu calendar has an extra month – this time it is an extra Bhadrapad. Since the Ganesh festival is celebrated in the month of Bhadrapad , we should,  technically speaking  be celebrating it twice. But, in the way of things which have no logic, while we have two Bhadrapad’s, and have to observe the period of fasting for five months instead of four, we celebrate the Ganesh festival just once – in the “real” Bhadrapad and not in the month that’s squeezed in! (What a pity that we can’t eat modaks twice over)

    However, the extra month or Adhik Mahina as it is called is also celebrated as all the months of the year have to be honoured and commemorated but that is a story for another time .

    Today, however, is special for me because that was the day all those years ago when my little one came into my life – on Ashadhi Ekadashi the day when the pilgrims congregate at Pandharpur. My older one also came into my life towards the end of Chaturmas on Kartik Navmi which is just two days away from Kartiki Ekadashi , when the festival of Pandharpur is celebrated yet again and  is it mere coincidence that my two precious gifts were given to me at this time? It has always been my wish to walk the 250 km distance between Alandi (a small town away from Pune) and Pandharpur along with the pilgrims and I did make a few attempts to find out how I could join the pilgrims but obviously was unsuccessful. One day, this wish too will be fulfilled……………

    In the meanwhile though, I do try to observe some kind of discipline for these four months: sacrificing eating something I really like and pray that the God Above continues to  look down kindly on my my precious ones.

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