• The joy of throwing away my high heels

    The Wintet Solstice marks an important change in Nature when the days start becoming longer. Well this solstice marked a change in my life . It was the day I decided to throw away my high heels. For some one who is short and fat this was a bold decision.

    I have always been obsessed with shoes. My clothes may not be trending, but my shoes – they had to be just so. Everything was fine while I was still a kid. Our choices were limited with school shoes being black, tennis shoes being flat soled basic Keds, rain shoes being gum boots that squished and collected water making your toes stink, rubber slippers that we called Hawais which doubled up as bedroom slippers and beachwear and of course a pair of party shoes that were either Mary Janes or Ballerinas. That was a pretty extensive variety of shoes to choose from !

    Luckily, my shoe size didn’t change much so I could get good wear of my shoes for at least a year or two unlike my friends who by 12 were wearing their mums’ shoes !

    It was this slow growth that stopped at UK size 3 that caused all my problems as an adult.

    Very few shoe shops kept a wide range of shoes to choose from. So when I found a shoe that I liked I would buy three of the same .

    Thus my modest collection slowly grew to a dozen or so. And they were in all kinds of heels – wedges, platforms, kitten , block and my pride and joy – 4” high stilettos.

    My joy in wearing stilettos was short lived because I became pregnant soon after. I spent the next ten years looking at them longingly. I didn’t dare wear them with a babe in arms or doing errands in the go.

    So gradually, the stilettos vanished from my shoe drawer. Slowly, kitten heels, and block heels went out of favour. And then the wedges. Last to go were the platforms. Initially, I loved the platforms that gave me height as well as the safety of wearing heels. But gradually I began tottering, walking in the typical rock & roll movement of a fat, aging granny. I was scared my foot would slip and I’d land up with a twisted ankle or worse still a fracture.

    Who was I trying to kid anyways ? My hair was grey and frizzy. I needed a moment to stretch when I stood up from a chair. I was an old granny.

    No amount of heel would disguise my lack of height or create the illusion of slimness. So I decided to give them the boot.

    And I went to the big family do at a swank restaurant where everyone towered over me and enjoyed dancing away in my very flat sensible low heeled slippers .

    Getting rid of my heels made me free to dance. I could walk without wobbling and enjoy myself once more. Free from the bondage of high heels, I could be myself once more.

    Perhaps I should buy some flat sandals or slippers in different colours.

    Ciao

  • The Last Sunday of 2025

    Today is the last Sunday of the year. And it has been quite an eventful Sunday because we had our last Christmas celebration of the season.

    Everybody has just ONE celebration for a birthday or a festival. But in our busy lives and with scattered family, we often have multiple celebrations. Birthdays are often celebrated more than once. Obviously, on the real day, then on a convenient day and sometimes with certain friends.

    Like most celebrations in my life, Christmas too is celebrated many times. Well before Christmas, in early December we had a Sinterklaas visiting us the way he visits the kids in the Netherlands. Ms. Papaya was going away for Christmas so we had Sinterklass visiting our house on the 6th of December.

    We were introduced to this concept by our Dutch colleague who stayed with us early December. On the 6th of December, I found some bits of rolled up paper near the girls’ door. Thinking it was some rubbish I put it in the bin. That evening, Erwin couldn’t help but ask if the girls had got their presents from Sinterklass. Naturally, we didn’t know a thing about this and when he explained that St. Nicholas, or Sinterklass, gave presents to the children in a boot kept outside the door. He also slipped in a $100 bill under their door, rolled up in a piece of paper.

    I went to the garbage bin immediately. I hunted out the paper and gave it to the girls. Of course, they didn’t know what to do with it!

    So before Ms Papaya went on holiday, I gave the Little People their Christmas gifts.

    Later, the Little People had a Christmas celebration at school. Then, they also had a Christmas party with their own friends. Then last week, a cousin hosted us in her house.

    Finally, we had our last Christmas party today.

    Our Own Secret Santa

    After she grew up, Anna Shetty started her own Christmas tradition. She invited the whole family over for a Christmas breakfast. The highlight of the day was the Secret Santa. Normally, she hosts us on Christmas Day itself. Unfortunately, both Little Po and Wow Dinga were unwell this year. So she postponed it to today. Which is why we had an enjoyable Sunday morning opening Christmas gifts. Both boys entertained us with music while we sipped Apperol Spritzers and chit-chatted.

    Then came the opening of the gifts, which was fun as we tried to guess who our Secret Santa was. We enjoyed a hearty brunch of sausages, bacon, croissants, cupcakes, quiche, Christmas cake, and plum pudding. Finally, we wound up with a game of Dare to DING.

    Goodbye 2025

    This will probably our last celebration of the year because New Year’s Eve is like any other night. Since it is the end of the first quarter of this Century, I might make it slightly special.

    Maybe I’ll stay up till midnight!

    Cheers and here’s hoping you have a great 2026.

    Ciao,

  • Books, Travels & More

    Books, Travels & More

    As the year comes to a close, it is time to take stock of what I did in 2025.

    This year, I had taken a conscientious decision to increase my blogging activity. I was fairly consistent with my posting. I also made it a point to send links to my posts to my friends and relatives.

    Unfortunately, the organic following is very, very slow and I need to find a way to improve this.

    This month I managed to read two out of the four books that I had borrowed from the library . Ever since the Library shifted, I’ve been loathe to use it. And worse, once it was rearranged, I completely lost my incentive to trudge up and borrow books. However, buying books is no longer an option, so I just have to borrow books.

    Reading books, I find, is more relaxing than watching television. And surprisingly it has also improved my short term memory.

    So even though I’ve decided NOT to make any resolutions for 2026 I will definitely reaffirm my intent to read MORE books in the new year.

    Overall, I think I managed 2-3 books a month this year

    There were some months like September, October and November where I didn’t read any books at all.

    This month despite the busy social scene, I managed to read two books

    Looking for a book to read?

    Look no further.

    Pavan Varma’s book was written in plain prose – very bland and dull even at times. An overworked, unappreciated Delhi lawyer , trapped in a loveless marriage slowly resorts to alcohol as his once brilliant career nose dives. Recovering fromja near-fatal stroke leads him to Bhutan, where he ultimately finds himself and his true love. What lifts it from the ordinary are the couplets and verse in Urdu and Hindi that are interspersed throughout the book.

    Intrigued by the name of the author, I took up reading Xochitl Gonzalez’ book and was quite taken in by the story. It concerns a young Latin American Arts History major studying in an Ivy League college. It deals with multiple issues – affirmative action, race and gender discrimination, class biases and stereotypes and cultural differences. With well-delineated characters, Gonzalez weaves two stories that combine the spirit world and reality.

    Travel

    Travel seemed to be on the cards this year with the trip of a lifetime to the Kumbhamela in end January. Taking a dip in the cold waters of the Ganges was a transformative experience.

    Halfway through the year I made a weekend trip to Pune where we visited the ancient Shiva temple of Bhuleshwar.

    What were supposed to be post-monsoon trips turned out to be a damp journey to the Konkan and wet four day trip to Munnar that we had to cut short. Luckily, the weather held during a long overdue trip to the Deccan towns of Bijapur, Badami, Pattadakal and Aihole.

    SOme cultural activity

    The highlight of this year was the Nutcracker on Ice that we saw at the NMACC. This was truly spectacular with Olympian ice skaters performing this ballet on a specially constructed ice rink in the theatre.

    The sets were magnificent, as were the costumes and overall, the show was truly magical.

    Equally enjoyable were the music concerts of the Little Po and the Annual dance of Ms. Papaya.

    I enjoyed a retrospective of Krishan Khanna held at the NGMA . This was a beautiful exhibition to celebrate the artist’s 100 birthday this year.

    and visited two exhibitions at the NSCI.

    Overall, it was a good year with plenty of social activities, catching up with family and friends.

    Here’s hoping that 2026 is a good year.

    Ciao,

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