• Time and tide they say waiteth for no man. How often we take refuge in the excuse that we had no time to do something or it wasn’t possible to do something when the actual fact remains that we just don’t want to do that thing.

    ” I couldn’t come to see you because I didn’t have a car”
    ” I didn’t come to see you because I didn’t have the time”

    These and several other lame excuses are slicked over with

    ” I promise I’ll come again when I have more time or when I have a car available”

    Of course there are genuine reasons for not doing things on time but honestly where there’s a will there’s always a way. People find time to do the things they want to do and do them when they have to be done.

    A father may tell his child “I’m really sorry I won’t be able to come home early for your birthday party but I promise you on Saturday I’ll take you to the Mall and you can buy whatever you want.”

    Does this kind of delayed gratification really work?

    It’s almost like skipping several meals and then gorging till bursting.

    There is really no excuse for not doing things on time. The simple truth is that it was not important enough for you to make the time for it.

  • I wish to get my story published in Chicken Soup for the Indian Entrepreneurs Soul in association with BlogAdda.com

    Most heroes are those
    who’ve overcome adversity, fought against all odds and emerged winners. But my
    story is of a man who has had it all and yet done everything for those who
    don’t have as much.  While many people
    help others to feel good about themselves or out of a sense of obligation, Nihal’s
    driving force is very simply his large heart.

    Anuradha and Shashank Mohanty, were worried when their two
    month old baby Kiran ran a mild fever for three months. Unable to find a
    suitable cure, the mother took the child to Bhubhaneshwar in sheer
    desperation.  The Mohanty’s world turned
    upside down when the doctor told them that Kiran had Cancer. Shashank broke
    down and thought his life was over but Anuradha, a kindergarten teacher, made
    of sterner stuff decided to take the doctor’s advice and take the baby to
    Mumbai  for treatment at the Tata
    Memorial Hospital.  She sold off her jewelry
    and a part of their land, packed up their belongings and took the train to
    Mumbai. Shashank’s brother welcomed them into his tiny home in Navi Mumbai and
    the couple made the trek into town everyday by local train. It was hard , the
    train ride was expensive, crowded and taxing on a sick child. Eventually the
    child did pick up an infection and was admitted to the hospital. For the first
    time Anuradha  felt a flicker of fear.
    What fate awaited her child after she was discharged? Would they be able to sustain
    the daily train ride for six months? Could they even stay with their relatives
    for that long? Or, God forbid, would they have to join the ranks of the many patients
    huddled up on the pavement outside the hospital?  
    Sensing her anxiety, the social worker at the hospital
    gently  suggested, “Why don’t you try
    going to St. Jude? It’s a new place close by which will accommodate you and
    your husband for free.”
    “For free? That can’t be,” said the young mother
    incredulously, “there must be a catch somewhere!”
    “Of course!” reiterated the father, “Who does anything for
    free? Probably those people will steal our kidneys or sell our children.”
    The social worker shrugged her shoulders, “Well, then
    there’s nothing much I can help you with. The only other place that offers free
    accommodation is all full up. You will be discharged tomorrow. Where will you
    go? On the pavement outside?”
    Immediately, Anuradha made up her mind. The street was no
    place for a family let alone a sick child
    “Come,” she said grabbing her husband by the hand, “let’s go
    and see this place.”
    Kiran Mohanty was just one of the hundreds of children who
    have benefitted from their stay at St. Jude India ChildCare Centres. This
    wonderful place which offers free and safe accommodation for out of town cancer
    afflicted children coming to Mumbai for treatment, is truly a haven of hope for
    families that are already dealing with crisis.
    It first threw open its doors in April 2006 to eight
    families. Today it has expanded to 7 centres in Mumbai, 2 in Kolkata, 2 in
    Delhi , 1 in Jaipur and several more in the offing in other Indian cities. These
    centres which accommodate up to sixteen families at a time are unlike a hospital
    ward and more like a home with cheery yellow walls, individual family units,
    clean toilets and bathrooms, a kitchen with individual cooking areas and a community
    space to play in. The parents are offered therapeutic and recreational programs
    that teach them skills and  the children  are kept engaged with meaningful activities
    and educational programs that stimulate their interest and encourage them to go
    back to school.
    Run jointly by Nihal and Shyama Kaviratne with a team
    of  volunteers and colleagues, St.Jude
    India ChildCare Centres is the brainchild of Nihal Kaviratne, a large portly
    gentleman in his mid sixties, with a deep baritone voice , a shiny bald pate, a
    smile that lights up his face and a childlike faith in the “Hand Above”. He
    looks like a typical well heeled, recently retired    businessman who should be enjoying the
    company of his grandchildren. But Nihal is no ordinary man. A child of
    privilege, Nihal was brought up with sensitivity to those who had less. His
    wife Shyama recalls the time when he bailed out one of their college friends by
    paying his tuition fees and another incident where he organized a charity do to
    raise money for the Armed Force’s Fund. Throughout his 40 year career, Nihal
    was conscious of corporate responsibility for sustainable development and when
    he got the chance as Chairman & CEO of Unilever Indonesia, set up the
    Unilever Indonesia Foundation to discover and empower the potential of the
    community.
    When he returned to India, he knew that he wanted to do
    something; but what?  Nihal’s “aha”
    moment came when he saw some cancer patients convalescing on the street outside
    the hospital! That’s when he realized that there was a dearth of safe and clean
    places to recuperate in. So he put down his savings and set up the first
    centre. Since then, the growth of St.Jude’s  has been purely organic – by word of mouth.
    Premises which were hard to come by, miraculously became available and funds
    which were even harder to get, kept pouring in from different parts of the world;
    the problems and obstacles along the way  deftly handled and settled, as Nihal says, by “
    the Hand Above”.
    With Nihal’s and my worlds so diverse, never in my wildest
    dreams did I imagine that our paths would cross one day. But strange are the
    ways of the universe .With my children grown up, I was feeling an emptiness in
    my life and was happy when a friend put me in touch with Nihal and St. Jude’s a
    charity that operates like a corporate . My task was to meet with and counsel the
    families at the hospital and tell them about our Centre.  Later on I put together their manuals and
    newsletters.
    A man of many parts, Nihal has a lot of interests that take
    up his time and as a Member of the Board of various multinationals he is
    constantly on the move. Yet every night before he calls it a day, he checks out
    the daily reports from the centres on his iPad, and sleeps content with the
    knowledge that there is yet another poor Indian family grappling with a sick child
    also enjoying a night of peaceful rest. 

  • Happy Mother’s Day

    I don’t celebrate the Fourth of July,
    I don’t celebrate Hallow’een
    I don’t celebrate Ground Hog Day
    Nor do I celebrate Labor Day, Memorial Day
    or George Washington’s Birthday.

    Actually I don’t even celebrate Mother’s Day
    Since that’s not my mother’s birthday.

    However since this is Anna Shetty’s first Mother’s Day, I decided to order in some flowers on behalf of Wow Dinga who doesn’t yet know the difference between one day and the next.

    After 12 days of waiting for my maid Jyoti to show up, I was, as my friend Kay would say, gobsmacked when I opened the door at half past eight to find Jyoti hiding behind a gorgeous bouquet of Oriental
    lilium, white and pink roses and a hint of baby’s breath. I almost missed the delivery man behind her ( he had another bouquet for another delivery) , so shocked was I at getting a bunch of flowers from my maid on Mother’s Day.

    Seeing the confusion on my face further confused Jyoti who was quite unsure of her reception : Would I be irate at her 12 day long absence? Would I have employed someone else in her place?

    Within minutes I sorted things out and put the flowers in a vase, wished Anna Shetty a Happy Mother’s Day and went back to my cup of creamy, frothy coffee, keen and  ready to enjoy  Mother’s Day!

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