• Fashionably Feeding

    General Mills monster-themed breakfast cereals
    General Mills monster-themed breakfast cereals (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    I never really understood the term Yummy Mummy. As far as I knew

    Yummy mummy is a slang term used in the United Kingdom to describe young, attractive and wealthy mothers.
    The term developed in the late 20th century, and was often applied to celebrity mothers such as Liz Hurley[3] or Victoria Beckham,[4] who appeared to quickly regain their pre-pregnancy figures after giving birth, and would continue to lead carefree and affluent lifestyles. Episode 13 of series six of The Nanny (airing in 1999) was called “The Yummy Mummy”. More generally, a “yummy mummy” is an often younger version of a milf, a term used either appreciatively or lustfully, usually by a man, to refer to a young mother with whom he would like to have a sexual encounter.
    The stereotypical yummy mummy was described by Nirpal Dhaliwal in The Times as having an existence “bankrolled by a husband working himself to death in the City, [dressing] in designer outfits… carries the latest must-have bag [and] whose hair and nails are perfectly groomed”.[3] A yummy mummy would have several children and yet remain a “girl-about-town”, dressing fashionably and appearing well-groomed and carefree.[5]It was reported in 2008 that celebrity yummy mummys were contributing to levels of depression in young mothers, making new mothers feel “saggy, baggy and depressed” about their own bodies.[4

    However, with my current exposure to grannyhood, I feel that a Yummy Mummy is one who is a 24 hour Coffee Shop!

    Making a fashion statement.

    This led me to a frantic hunt for perfect clothes for a nursing mother. Just as my current experience in looking for Maternity Clothes proved difficult, so also shopping for a suitably fashionable post natal wardrobe proved equally frustrating. The last time after I had so painstakingly explained to my tailor how I wanted the garment to be designed, he cleverly used the cloth to make TWO copious blouses with zips down the front. When I told him that I wanted a dress, he looked aghast and crest fallen that I didn’t appreciate his ingenuity . According to him, the tights which could be worn before the baby could be substituted by a skirt post delivery. This works fine if you have a natural child birth but if you have a cesarean section then anything over the waist becomes uncomfortable. So that leaves you with no option but to buy maternity gowns – those billowing shapeless garments that do nothing for your figure and even less for your self esteem which seems to plummet every moment with the challenges of new motherhood.

    In the hunt for the perfect garment for nursing mothers, RTI at Hughes Road emerges a distinct winner despite the fact that the choice is limited to  diaphanous, embroidered gowns in see through mulls or dull and boring ENORMOUS tents. It would seem that every woman naturally billows out into Large, XLarge  and XXLarge so don’t try looking for Small or XSmall!  That size just does not exist in RTI’s vocabulary.

    However, baby had to be fed and mummy had to be clad so I came back home triumphant with my purchases only to find Anna Shetty looking distinctly unhappy. From skimpy tops and spaghettis she seemed doomed to colourless shapeless garments that were more suited to the middle aged women rather than young happy mothers. So in the afternoon I made another trip to the shops to find something more trendy and cheery.

    I was more successful with my trip to the mall at Phoenix Mills where  I found some distinctly fashionable clothes in AND, and Wills Lifestyle Store. All that I had to  look for was a dress that could open all the way down to the waist. I also found a great wrap dress.While these are definitely not cheap, they do wonders to your confidence and serve the purpose of being great dresses to wear while you are a nursing mother! Remember though, the fabric should be child friendly, preferably cotton hosiery which can do with frequent washing and won’t irritate the baby’s skin.

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  • What the Sister didn’t ask for

    Although I don’t go around with a rope and a pen knife, I have always tried to live by the Girl Guide Motto ” Be Prepared”. In fact one of the best things about doing anything is getting prepared and I love getting things organised. However, I’ve always found that one can never really be prepared.

    When Anna Shetty was getting ready for her confinement, we went about getting the layette organised and thought we’d had it all packed and ready with  super absorbent cotton nappy squares, diaper pants , gossamer soft baby gowns and half a dozen wrappers to swaddle the baby, all neatly arranged in a bag ready to go. However, we soon discovered that despite being well prepared, we actually weren’t.

    For our first ever nappy change we were asked for a langot – something that was missing from our list! So off we went to the shop with a skip and a hop to find out that the shop assistant didn’t know what we wanted. After much pointing we managed to get something which obviously was not what the sister wanted but which she could grudgingly make do with.

    Firstcry Cloth Diapers/Nappies
    But  baby ran through langots faster than we could dry them so we had to make another trip to buy some more! So a word of advice for new born mothers – be prepared to be unprepared for what they didn’t tell you.

    Now,as a three day old granny I can share some new born  nappy tips –

    • keep a stack of nappy liners – they’re great to collect and dispose off baby poo
    • keep a stack of soft hosiery langots ready – they’re easy to tie on a wiggly, squealy new born.
    • keep a stack of swaddle cloths 

    What you never expected

    While you were expecting a bundle of joy what you never expected was the unsolicited advice that you get after the bundle appears. Suddenly everyone becomes a consultant with or without any previous experience. How I wish that unsolicited information too could be wiped off and thrown away!
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  • The Joys of Knitting

    With 2012 being one of the most stressful and horrible years of my life, I had to try several ways to beat the stress. 

    Every problem brings upon a million suggestions and almost every day I got new advice to try

    • walking
    • talking
    • ranting 
    • raving
    • blogging
    • homeopathy
    • sleeping pills
    • psychiatric counselling
    • tarot healing
    • past life regression
    • making deals with God
    None of them seemed to work and I’d reached such a stage of desperation that if any one had told me to count backwards from 1000 while walking backwards with my eyes closed on a crowded Mumbai street in peak traffic, I would have done it – just to experience a good night’s rest of dreamless sleep.
    Finally, it was this last month that I discovered the true key to happiness – knitting.

    Alas! With Mumbai’s brief  and warm winters, knitting is a skill quite alien to me despite the compulsory set of booties and mittens we had to make in school. Apart from learning what k1, p2, psso meant, knitting remained a mystery  – a troublesome skill we had to learn during lessons called Home Science or Needlework. While all of us hated those lessons in the afternoon, especially when the teacher ripped out an untidy hem that took almost half the afternoon to do,  I realise now how essential they are ! With Home Science going out the window,  girls today who are highly educated career women with great jobs that pay so well don’t know a thing about needles and thread they’d rather staple up an undone hem or buy a new trouser rather than darn a tear. Their fingers are more adept at punching numbers and keyboards and  they are handier with swiping their credit cards than they are at threading a needle or sewing a seam.

    Oh those poor things! I feel sorry for them for not only have they lost a skill that would have them run up their own “BESPOKE” wardrobes but as I found, these women have lost access to a  great stress buster. Embroidery and knitting are great ways to calm the mind. Unlike the iPad or mobile phone which is downright antisocial, needlework has an elegant grace to it, something that soothes the spirit of even those just watching you work, slowly and steadily one stitch at a time. Women find knitting easy to do while in company and there are several celebrities in Hollywood who have discovered its therapeutic qualitites.

    The Code of the Sweater Knitters

    My recent foray into knitting was purely by chance – With her nesting instinct strongly kicking in, Anna Shetty was seized with a great desire to knit. So  with great enthusiasm we trooped down to the shop at Arora Towers off Pune where I found a measly selection of wool. We rummaged through my mother’s stack of pattern books dating from the 40s and found a pamphlet of adorable babies wearing adorable knits. Unfortunately the instructions weren’t adorable and definitely weren’t meant for a first time knitter. It was only a matter of days before her enthusiasm waned and  my curiosity was aroused : I was determined to learn how to debunk the code of the knitting pattern.

    And after several attempts at deciphering the language, figuring out the instructions, knitting and unravelling inches of finished knitting and  picking up dropped stitches I finally managed to finish  the garment – a pale cream Matinee Coat.  It was with a sense of immense satisfaction that I tied the delicate bows of satin ribbon to finish it off. Now the only question is will it fit the baby ?

    But I’m not too worried because I’ve discovered a new Mantra 

    Knit your stress away!

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