• The bunch of keys


    Thirty years ago my husband gave me Rs. 500 as princely sum those thirty years ago. I immediately went down to Nana’s Chowk  and bought this chunky bunch of keys to tuck into my sari much like the villainous Lalita Pawar in the Hindi movies of old . I loved the jingle jangle of the keys which served as an Early Warning System to my girls who would quickly shut tight their eyes, pretending to be fast asleep when I used to pop in to keep an eye on them.

    Today when I returned from my walk, I went to my cupboard and as was my habit, put in the key and opened the door. I realised then that there were several superfluous keys in the bunch : those that opened no doors. Obviously somewhere along the way, I had changed the locks or changed the doors and had forgotten to remove the useless keys from my bunch making it heavier and bulkier to carry around.

    So often in life, we have such burdens that we carry needlessly keys to doors that don’t open anything. I realised then that we should do a regular audit, assess those keys that we need and sift out the ones that we don’t. Our lives will be that much lighter and easier to manage.

    Once you set sail in uncharted waters, there is no need to hang on to the past. Steer straight ahead without looking backwards , there is always someone to help you. Be brave and cast off the people you don’t need, and do so without guilt or regret. The past only cripples you and hinders your journey ahead.

     


  • I’ve been walking in the morning for almost as long as I remember. It all started with a dog that we got when I was around 14 years old. And that was really a long time ago! It was way back in the early ’70s when my father’s old boss Col. Subramaniam foisted the Folly of his pedigreed Retriever on an unsuspecting family returning home from a summer vacation. It was the last day of our road trip and we fell in love with the tiny little puppies surrounding the magnificent golden Retriever who was basking in her newfound motherhood.  The Col was most protective of his dog having lost his grown up daughter to a mysterious sudden viral attack and the  subsequent  dissolution of his family when his wife ran off with her young son’s best friend and was quite shocked to find that his beloved Retriever actually fell for the charms of the neighbourhood hound. And once the puppies came along, the Col wanted nothing better than to put them in good homes so when we landed up for dinner, tired and longing to go home, he caught us at our vulnerable best . It is hard to resist a puppy dog and his eyes so it was easy for the Col to palm off the pup as a cross between a Golden Retriever and a Black Labrador.

    So that is how I began my morning walk as it was my duty to walk the dog before and after school. I also began an after dinner walk but that vanished with the dog and the only walk I do after dinner is the slow shuffle to my bed!

    But morning walks are quite addictive and the best way to seize the day. Obviously I’m not the only one who thinks so as there are literally hundreds of people out there pounding the streets, walking the parks or just going round and round in circles in the compound or on a terrace. You find people walking with dogs, walking with friends or now walking with Walkmen, iPods and other means of entertainment.  There are regular morning walkers with regular gangs , groups of men discussing Stocks & Shares, people chanting shlokas and mantras, others sharing tips on weightless, health issues, child rearing, living with inlaws , dealing with bosses or just basically having a good old healthy bit of gossip.

    Depending on my mood and the time on hand, I walk at the Race Course, down Marine Drive, at Priyadarshini Park, in my compound, down Kay’s lane, up Altamount Road, on Malabar Hill, down Nana’s chock past Mahalakshmi, down Breach Candy or even up and down my living room when sleep deserts me before the crack of dawn.

    Today was a special walk because Hubby Dear drove for the first time after s TIA. Now for all those who’ve had a TIA it may come as a shock to learn that what you’ve gone through is nothing compared to those who’ve seen you through it. The shock of seeing someone actually suffer an attack is fleeting while taking care of the person is long term. Taking care of the physical needs and medical needs is easy enough what is really difficult is making lifestyle changes. After all in most cases it is bad lifestyle choices that bring upon the attack in the first place.

    And what is more difficult is trying to be caring and loving and gentle and kind and patient and strict and indulgent and encouraging and restraining and……….the list is almost endless. I also know that patient care for all convalescents is tough for the care giver……. So you will understand that going for a morning walk as I did today , is a milestone that makes each step even longer!

    As we walked down Marine Drive this morning, with a stiff ,crisp  breeze blowing gently, the sea still covered with misty haze, amidst people pounding the pavements with determination and ease, avoiding dogs that trained at the leash, walking out of the way of children roller blading and cycling I felt a burden lifting slowly from my head. I realised how wonderful it was to be alive and to keep in step with the world!

  • Last night I was almost ready to go to bed when the phone rang disturbing the quiet stillness.  A while later, I was called to the phone where I was given an invitation to attend the formal opening of Mumbai‘s latest luxury hotelShangri La by none other than the promoter herself.  At first I was quite excited, honoured even and flattered to have been considered “smart” enough to be seen at such an event. (Yes one of my friends who is organising a destination  wedding for her daughter  told me that I made the cut as she wanted her wedding to be a classy affair and did not want people who looked distinctly rustic or ethnic). I am what you would call a “glorified extra” someone who can hold her own at a fancy wedding in her own jewelry and clothes, mingle with the guests and add to the numbers that make an Indian wedding an Indian wedding.

    But that’s not really the point – the point being the opening of the Shangri La. This hotel is actually situated in the heart of Mumbai’s textile industry which thanks to the militant stance of Dr. Dutta Samant actually deteriorated from a vibrant  productive working class area into a barren, desolate urban space spelling despair and disrepute. Luckily Atul Ruia of Phoenix Mills ( strangely prophetic the name uh?) turned a dead industry into a thriving real estate business by converting his family’s textile mill into a commercial real estate space with Big Bazaar  and its distinctly middle class supermarket being his first tenant. After Big Bazaar took hold, Phoenix became the swankiest Real Estate Development, despite the constant construction disrupting the layout of the complex. With shops becoming distinctly up market and gradually being called Stores, today Phoenix is a success story like no other with retailers vying with one another to be “seen” there.

    Mumbaikars have always associated recreation with eating and shopping and Big Bazaar and Bowling Company were definitely better than hanging out at Apna Bazar or Sahakari Bhandar the co-operative stores that were definitely a no-no for the young DINKs who became more visible in Mumbai in the mid-80s and being big spenders, demanded more. And the Ruias obliged adding on more and more shops and big names till it Phoenix became the last word in branded retailing.

    Phoenix came to be the ideal spot for a day of leisure and pleasure  with Multi plexes, Food Courts gaming arcades and Haute Couture. Gone were the days of shopping in the crowded hot small holes in the walls or buying stuff at Five Star Hotel stores attended to by snooty shop attendants with an attitude. I  love shopping at Phoenix –  and go there at least once a month. With ample car parking and morning movies at Rs. 100, Jo and I almost always catch a movie here. So often we had wished that we could hang out there the whole weekend – one hedonistic one rather than go somewhere distant and exotic for a holiday. Ah, we would say as we snacked on pop corn, if only we could spend the morning at a PVR multi plex, step out for a quick bite (with varied choices of icecreams and cuisines suiting every palate and wallet) , then browse around the haute couture stores, splash around some expensive perfume, take in a gig at the Comedy Store and then…………..
    check in for a night of pure relaxation at the Shangri La hotel. That would have been perfect.

    At that time the hotel was still a distant dream but today as it stands tall and ready, I wonder  if and when we’ll make good our wish….

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